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of my children especially miss their childhood. Tomorrow, July 23, has three years more of them. That made me a father of a little bit of puppy. Three months later, the second is two years old. Its exact distance fifteen months of repeated, casual or providentially, a pattern that my parents had tried, but without much accuracy. Date of birth of my sister to me, there are 15 months less three days from my date of birth to my youngest brother is 36 months minus three days. But if my arrival had some justification for the slow pace typical of men versus women, to ensure that the distance in terms child development was more or less equally among the three, in the case of the difference in months between the largest and smallest of my sons seems to stem from an intent to equalize in development.

be someone's brother and a comparison means. Brotherhood is a term "relational" and if you're brother is not obliged to be higher or lower. So I confirm what my friend and namesake Louis, twins, who often point out that the more he is, he was born a few seconds earlier. Be more logically would simply arrive early and begin to learn and develop before and force even before the parents to learn how to work against their offspring. And parents can only be first-time with the brother / sister, but no more. At that the older brothers are like the first impression. Nothing before that can be used: no experience with the nephews, or acquired as adults compared to other children, or that we acquire in childhood and the memories of this time wanted to start our lives wisely.

The problem is that minor children can not always assume that what is learned as parents with older children can apply to them. The younger brother of my eldest son was announced with an air of casual, "came, although they are not strained and anxious for my arrival ... but I come quickly." While the child most wanted to be announced soon, and my friends even complimented me for having to leave for day to save energy for my shabby genes in the performance achieved fruitful night, the younger son came despite having taken up the exercise, and sleeplessness and exhaustion caused by the greater. The more we thought

would have trouble hearing, until the doctor explained that he was too weak to protest, we believe that it was cross-eyed, as in some photos an eye "and that he was there, until the ophthalmologist explained that it was simply the bridge of the nose was consistent with being "very stubborn" diagnosis as his cousin Oscar frankly. The child did not have time to wonder, or doubt, or ask, parents hypochondriacs with the first, if he heard, for their protests at the slightest noise is left each morning to discuss the next-door neighbor, who seemed to take the records of hours of crying and the requirement of milk.

like your brother, said my mother. It looks like your brother, declared others. What a beautiful child! Sure looks like your wife ... thought some more, with what my mother felt increasingly beaten, he seemed to recognize, without declaring that their children had not come out as beautiful as of her daughter. Proud that there kids will ever look better than he and his brother, his mother asked, "Who is more handsome?" Until answered with a voice that probably articulated and understood the word before his brother: " me! "and burst out laughing, as if he understood that and the other jokes that made us smile to see him.

Having a younger brother is not easy. Apart from that it assumes that those who are older brothers of someone else, have an obligation to educate, the problem is when that brother did not agree with outdated practices with which we were brought a few months ago. And if my sister assumed the task of educating his two younger brothers as if she were much older, my younger brother not only ignored my educational support, but managed to be smart enough to educate him to me. In that tradition upside down, my youngest son managed to start teaching words, movements, dance steps, shouting, patience, his younger brother. And if my brother gave me the central arguments of some of my master when he was in the degree, the younger brother soon realized that the crying of his brother did not mean that there is a latent threat to all babies in the house and soon ceased to be united with eager cries the elderly.

One of my students welcomed the new kid at the same time take the opportunity to warn that, apart from being big brother can not be easy, being a younger brother can be a burden. "I'm the youngest of several brothers and when I arrived and it seems that everyone was sick and tired of having babies, so I did not make me much attention. Ask also if the younger. " And meanwhile, who had been the only boy king and tyrant of the house, tugging me to keep me near the birthplace of the child, who came to invade not only what was once their space, but to fill occupations time and concerns of parents who were just for him. So that during the first weeks of life the child had little chance to hug and had to wait to sleep more to admire the baby eyes and lips the same as those of his mother. And if the term brother is relational and comparative, that of the sibling rivalry that has fascinated both psychoanalysts, seems to imply that children begin to do math, and mathematical calculations of the time parents devote to them. And to make accounts on time we devote to the brother. "Why he did carry it, pamper it, you buy, you're done, tolerate him ... and not me?" We wonder, magnifying the attention they lavish him with his brother and decreeing that no matter how give us, while not all, will remain low.

In this rivalry, the younger brother engages in conquering a territory and a parents' time that was once exclusive and that he never will be: there is already an occupant with whom we must share with the parents, spaces, times, food, toys, seats in the stroller, in the family car, the eyes of the grandparents, friends, fatigue and energy of parents. So our youngest son, in his first weeks, seemed to have chosen me as territory lost to the insistence of the first to walk away, and take over the mother all day, refused to sleep, eat, stop mourn if you did not have his mother's warm arms around him and learned to sleep on your abdomen to ensure that there was beneath him.

The most eventually learn that the mother was lost territory in the fraternal struggle, so I learned to sleep in my abdomen, to ensure that I was there when he woke up, to pull to get away from the brother ... So we decided to take turns in separate rooms and in turn, to care for one and another. The major began to understand that at least once every other, her mother would be present there to attend to, while the less began to understand that once again yes and no, his father would be there to do what the mother would turn.

At one point I began to understand some of the implications of what I ever said a colleague at the university to see my first child, with only a few months old, "one wanted to stay and that not grow. " My reaction to that sentence was: "No! I do not want that, I want to grow, walk, talk, do things and thank you. " But now I see, especially the speed with which it develops the younger brother, his childhood is gone. That of the "ten talents" who once said his grandfather, "and not have to waste any," crowned the commentator, my youngest son wanted to learn them, wasting them, show them all before they reach kindergarten, and soon devoted to draw circles, eating with their own cutlery, walking the malls without shaking hands, singing and dancing as they come , chat with older brother and tell jokes without words, go out in awake, rubbing only while bathing. While the older brother we keeps asking her "baba" milk "the child manages to drink water in a glass, wait until the diaper is removed for urination, press all the buttons on your DVD player's to find the one that serves to stop or move, at will, the film has chosen from among the favorites of "duck!, pant! Lion! Barney! "And it warns us that, however slow we want to be, or as much as we worry that not enough progress, soon our babies (especially the youngest) achieved their independence and go to school to the homes of friends and relatives, the world, but we can not stop now. They remind us that the terrible teens, with their silence, isolation, loneliness, growths, bumps, trials, errors and their inability to go back, also hovers over them. And their children will be gone, along with their demands, but eventually their autonomy take your walking to jumps, startled eyes, his sweet "Daddy, Daddy, Daddy!" Slow

like his father and almost as much as his grandfather, the elder brother began to say words and try to spin sentence only to the example he put his younger brother. Concerned, her mother commented to my father, "when will he talk? What preoupación expesar anguish that something and that we no longer understand what you want! "Grandpa, who was not a kindergarten, he replied that he had begun speaking at five years ..." So do not worry, one day speak. " But it seems Froebel and Montessori both were right: the development of various skills in childhood is related to socialization. So parents, especially those who tend to "understand" and "guess" what they want their children had been holding back the language of higher learning, who began to communicate more when they visited cousins, talkative and eager to things and activities that could request and claim. Reciprocal visits and the support of younger brother (who served as challenge and example to talk and dance) may arise in which to understand and retell the jokes the biggest is to ask the child.

In my time visiting school of psychology (which did not study much), used to speak of "effects in the sequence" on behavior. The reasoning, very behaviorist, was very simple: if you first "subjects" (pigeons, rats, children, chimpanzees, psychology students, bystanders, who are the subjects of study classics as undisciplined discipline) behave in a certain way, is difficult to learn otherwise later. So, somehow, what is learned first affects what is learned and what can be learned later. My wife and I usually ponder whether the order of birth of our children have had another sequence: we would taken with the ease (relative) with whom we take the announcement of the arrival of second son, had been the first such "movidoso" from the uterus and then out of it as it was the second? Would we have panicked if the first had been so difficult to follow, as active from the moment you open your eyes in the morning, so perceptive moments of hilarity and the difference between playing and suffering as was the second?

My oldest son and I be a little more slowly learning that our respective siblings. Although over the years that it has the advantage that one can learn many things in life without having to wait for us to explain them to the contemporary or teachers, meanwhile (at least I) is the feeling, the brothers have more perceptive, that something fails us, that we need to get angry with each other because they understand just what it should be understood later. And it should be "after me, because I am the greatest."

Fortunately, even though it took me several years to understand that my brother's birthday came three days before mine ("Why did he meet before, if I'm older?"), I ended up accepting that while quite older brothers have to suffer the children cease to be unique to our arrival, the younger brothers help us to understand that they also have to reclaim their spaces and lots of time and attention of parents. The daughter of my wife, more for 16 years that my older son, we said, jokingly, that his legacy, "weight" is increasingly divided. Instead of weight, became 50 cents and then at only 34 cents (the largest, and which corresponds to a penny per old). Conversely, the problem is that younger siblings are rare occasions they can enjoy all the attention, resources, youth, parent, since these resources have been somewhat eroded by the elderly. Is to lower the despicable no consolation to reach a world in which older and have given some training sessions with parents.

course, some parents are learning more slowly than others ...

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younger brother I love the interviews

'm a fan of the chat. I love to hear and criticize others, learn from and reflect on some of the issues raised by the radio. As a social scientist also am interested in a professional, multi-themes of what happens in my town from Guadalajara and beyond the borders of my country. It has happened to me also invited to participate, to think, reflect, in some radio stations (and sometimes TV) from my village. The issues have been mixed and sometimes I even have had time to build my arguments using readings of authors who have written are true specialists / experts in the topics to discuss.

Some of these invitations weeks in advance I have given the topic, some of the edges that most interests him and have justified the invite to be a sociologist, or psychologist, or because they know that I have ever been close to the matter to be treated. Once agreed the space-time coordinates, I could make an argument and make notes written to appeal to them if my memory. In contrast, I have received other invitations for radio interviews in which they have left me no opportunity to decline the invitation, such as those derived from a phone call at 6:50 am in intepelaron me directly: "Are you in the air ... What do you think that football fans have beaten a policeman? Would you expect increased violence in the coming weeks? "I do not remember very well how I solved the situation, but after one of my friends, after another of those ill-timed calls to participate in a live radio show and hot I called her once to give me your opinion, I began to be more cautious to accept invitations. My friend told me: "I heard on the radio. Excuse me for saying so, but on the summit Obama and Calderon will admit only pure bullshit. " What surprised me was my friend not his candor, because we know more than 30 years, but would have had the radio on a station that I assumed no one would listen and a time that I thought were doing all fatal nothing more productive than listening radio. So, now knowing that someone is likely to hear my opinions of "expert" even though I believe I am only talking to who brings the other microphone, I chose to think that I probably should not be as accessible and ask me things of which probably do not know anything at all. In my years

teaching, on several occasions has given courses in the first semester of sociology or philosophy. Something that students often ask is about the reasons why they chose their career. A few years ago, one of them simply said, "is that once I saw you on TV in a forum and then decided that I wanted to be a sociologist." Even if that student some time ago graduated from the bachelor, over the years I have been greeted on the street or in shopping malls and at least so far I have not seen or heard part in a television program or radio. I have not dared to ask, but Sometimes I suspect that his decision to become a sociologist perhaps was related to the fantasy that sociology professionals have the ability to talk nonsense about a wide range of topics and even ask us for more details about them.
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Many radio interviews are just conversations with someone in charge of the program usually has a certain formality and then based on the alleged scholarship of the "interview" is not nothing but a party that is supposed to have certain information that the audience would like to hear. Over the years I've learned that no matter how well prepared my argument, based on my academic work of years, or reading a few weeks, days or minutes prior to the time spent "on air", the interviewer will seek to change the subject or trying to edge as I never have occurred to me. I intend to only accept invitations when he called me to occupy a space and time in your cabin manages to be more explicit on the subject and on the edges and even want to discuss what other experts will be partners. However, even though I insist:

1. A well-defined theme that is also on my professional competence and within my more specific interests;

2. A question general well-considered;

3. A clear relationship to events of recent weeks or days in institutional settings atingentes;

4. A clear profile of the other partners with whom, who leads the program and I, we will talk ...

The truth is that so far my previous notes I have done little since the drivers are interested in radio programs emphasize different things than they could disctutir with other academics involved in each topic. For example, if the appointment is to talk, say, on remittances sent by Mexican migrants from the U.S. to Mexico, most likely talk resulting in the living conditions of Mexicans abroad and the depression that overwhelms when in distant lands to his homeland, which is the most beautiful places in the universe. But if the appointment is to discuss the psychological and physical health of those who go up North and those who remain in villages of origin, then the talk will include very specific questions like: "What is the amount of remittances of money to Jalisco during the first half of this year? Is it less than this amount from what was, in relative terms in 1994, the year of crisis in Mexico or in 2008, the year of crisis in the U.S. "

In any case, even if one insists, as respondent, in talking about that for which he was invited, it is likely that already in place, the driver of the program and in the case given that no calls from the audience, who listen to the show, comes to mind. You may have noticed, as part of the audience, who sometimes call the same driver program and start some comments saying: "So, does that mean that xyj ..." And take the opportunity to put those arguments when in fact the respondent is doing best to just point out other things that have nothing to do with x and j. Sometimes when I listen to radio, just ask me: "so what does that matter? Why change the subject? "but when I am part of the talk, sometimes I have no choice but to be explicit and say" yes, xyj are related by being part of the alphabet to describe the subject we were talking about. "

So what can appendicocolic of radio interviews is that they rarely deal with the issue that is advertised to be treated ... and may even heated arguments about arguments that are not quite related. A case at hand is that of some politicians who, when interviewed, feel that the driver will transmit the message that the public says they do not do their job and are dedicated to defend and say that there are works of this or that class, instead of describing the pros and cons of those actions for which they were invited. And drivers want to talk about an issue that was not proposed, and politicians rarely want to talk about anything but their aspirations to the next place in his career, and as the audience hears only for fun and not for information, all happy and everyone speaking, listening and interpreting what gives it its common or royal wins ...